Sunday, November 30, 2008

It's the holidays...

...and its cold! What could we all do to beat the chill? What better way than to heat up the sheets with your better half by getting it on. If you can't stand the holiday's with the fam, why not sneak off to a coat closet and do a little "hope-we-dont-get-caught sex". It'll burn calories AND make that dreaded holiday party go by fast.

I was reading aol and they had a great list of types of sex every couple should enjoy. It'll light sparks, burn calories, and bring you closer to your partner. So check out the list below, and then tell me how it goes. :]

Make-Up Sex

A passionate argument can lead to some just-as-passionate action between the sheets. Fighting causes dopamine and adrenaline levels to rise, making you and your partner excitable in more ways than one. Every couple faces occasional conflict, and sex after a disagreement can be a great way to get your relationship back on track. "When you're upset with each other, you need to be able to get over it and move on," says Fertel. "Sex changes the momentum after an argument."

Vacation Sex

The two of you may be tucked away in a private room, but the deed can still feel thrillingly public. And those crisp, clean sheets are just begging to be rumpled. Best of all, a vacation can be a great opportunity to re-connect with your partner sexually. "One of the benefits of a vacation should be to renew your sexual intimacy,” Fertel says. If you usually plan every minute of a trip, make sure you schedule time for sex. For example, plan to stay at the hotel until mid-morning or to come right back to your room after dinner for a relaxing night together.

Animalistic Sex

A sense of urgency can turn up the heat in a major way. Being aggressive can be fun and unexpected -- romance with a twist. After all, it's an element of mystery that defines romance. "It's when you don't quite know what to expect," Fertel says. So if you're in the mood, ripping each other's clothes off and skimping on foreplay could be an exciting change of pace.

Comfort Sex

Like meatloaf and mashed potatoes, sometimes you just need something that's simple, familiar and satisfying. It's one way to provide love and support when you or your partner has had a rough day or is feeling down. This is when it might be time to use your favorite stand-by position, one that you and your partner always enjoy. "When it comes to the climax, sometimes it needs to be in a certain way, and that's OK," says Fertel.

Hope-We-Don't-Get-Caught Sex

If you're at a boring party or family gathering, add a little spice to the evening by sneaking away to the spare bedroom. The possibility of getting caught adds a new level of excitement to your sex life and can even give you a reason to look forward to spending the holidays with the in-laws.

Fulfill-Your-Fantasy Sex

Everyone has sexual fantasies, and as long as both you and your partner feel comfortable acting them out, there's no reason you shouldn't try them. "We should be pursuing each other's fantasies, assuming they're appropriate," says Fertel. For example, if your partner has always dreamed of doing the deed on a boat, why not rent one and spend a romantic night at sea? All aboard!

Quickie Sex

If you're pressed for time, don't write off sex just yet -- this is when "the quickie" comes in handy. Just make sure it's something both parties want; an unfulfilling experience for either one of you can foster resentment and, over time, weaken the relationship. When someone says yes to sex when she really means no, "she's not doing him a favor; she's making a mistake," Fertel says. "It will turn her off to him sexually long-term."

Romantic, Sensual Sex

Taking the time savor sex without rushing through it can be luxurious and fulfilling on many levels. Connecting with your partner by taking it slow means you get to enjoy every moment of being together and lets you take advantage of the emotional connection that makes sex better. Whether it takes candles, music or some bubbly, building the mood can provide a major boost between the sheets.

All-Over-the-House Sex

Switching up your lovemaking location can be a great way to inject some spontaneity into a relationship, which in turn can make your partner feel even more desirable. "Spontaneity is beautiful. It's fun and exciting," says Fertel. "Too often, people get into a routine where they have sex at the same time, at the same place." If you and your partner are doing the laundry together, for example, pulling him or her close for a quick rendezvous can be surprising and refreshing. It's good, clean fun -- no detergent required!

Outdoor Sex

You tell your kids to go play outside -- now it's time to practice what you preach! Bringing your sexual escapades outside can be fun and invigorating. If you're camping in a tent or live on a large piece of property, those can be great opportunities to try something new. But to avoid legal problems, it's best to keep your shenanigans private. "The caution is to make sure you're somewhere where you could not be in the public eye," Fertel says. So venture outside to learn more about the birds and the bees.

Position of the Week Sex

Trying out a new position offers the chance to learn more about what brings your partner pleasure. Some positions work better than others for helping a woman orgasm, and experimenting with new ones can give you a better feel for what works -- and what doesn't. Mixing it up keeps sex fresh and prevents it from becoming routine, Fertel says. That makes it more likely you and your partner will keep doing it -- literally.

Marathon Sex

Come rain, snow, sleet or hail, when the weather gets frightful this winter there's no better excuse to spend an entire day in bed. Think of it as Bedroom Olympics. Work together for a common goal, like breaking your record for how many times you can do the horizontal tango in a row. When your sexual energy is finally tapped out, you'll both be exhausted and satisfied.

I was also reading on AOL earlier this week that a minister of a large congregation challenged his church goers to try having sex everyday for a week. His thought was to bring sex "back to god" and help stimulate fizzling out marriages. There were tons of responses and I was surprised to see that most couldn't do it for seven days in a row. Geez! You treat it like doing laundry and it'll get boring and un-meaningful, just like laundry.

I think I could definitely take on this challenge. Its a testament to how you want to make your partner feel. You can hold their hand, open doors, actively listen when they talk and make them laugh, but the connection that happens when you prove to them physically they're your number one is something that cant be matched. I feel the kind of love and spark you feel towards a person when its the right one, can't be described in words, and shouldn't be! Taking the time to excite and pleasure your partner shows them how important they are to you deep down and how there isn't anyone out there that can make them feel like you make them feel.

Imagine getting it on under christmas tree lights! Heh, that would be awesome!

Happy holidays,


Wednesday, November 26, 2008


Yup. It's fun, it's homeopathic, and its only boring and lame if you make it boring and lame.

These ladies would agree. And I'm umm...happy they do. Cause two are on my celebrity freebee list :]

Scarlett Johanson:
"Sex in a car. If I were in a really raunchy frame of mind wanting something crazy and kinky, the back seat would be it." -Talking about her sexual fantasy with me in the back of my solara.

Megan Fox:
"I really enjoy having sex, and that's offensive to some people. Women are the quickest to call other women sluts, which is sad. I haven't met a lot of men who've said, 'You like having sex? What a dirty whore you are!' That's because they wish their wives or girlfriends would have more sex with them." - Can I make my list larger? So I can...ya know, have her on it? Even though she is engaged to guy, I'd still give it a whack

Angelina Jolie:
"You're young, you're drunk, you're in bed, you have knives; shit happens..." - I'll take all of that with her, minus the knives.

Kate Hudson [yum]:
"Sexual energy really does drive me. ...My mother's the same as me. My parents always said, 'Sex is the best thing in the world...When you start having it you're going to love it. But it's that much better when you love somebody, so just remember that." - This is hotter than what Angelina, Megan AND Scarlett said. Nom nom nom...

and my favorite...god love her...

Dolly Parton:
"When I have sex with my husband these days, I fantasize I am with someone like Keith Urban or a petite, hot young woman." - H.O.T.

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!

Be safe!


Tuesday, November 11, 2008

For all my ravers

I saw this guy live about 2 years ago at the DC Improv. Really hilarious. His name is Pablo Francisco. He will be rolling through the San Jose Improv this coming New Years. If you have a chance to check him out, he is a must see. If you are broke like me, just watch youtube vids :]

It's Tuesday huh? Damn it. Well for those of you who are in the SF area...Uh Huh Her is performing tonight at the Filmore. What a great venue and what a great freaking band. I would have killed to go to this performance at such a small intimate venue. If you're going, have fun!

The rest of ya'll be safe whatever you do and if you're broke like me, have fun at home!



Monday, November 3, 2008

I miss you now

Its that time again. Called on like an old friend. Consistent and precise, it happens from time and time. The overwhelming urge to see you your face in front of me again. Bright and shiny like I remember. All of you before it all became unglued. I miss you now. Thought I had the strength to make it better, to make it all worth while. For you, I wanted to be. What you needed. Wrapped up in my own world, but selfishly persistent to bring you back to you. The one always there, when no one else could be found. My best friend. Memories trapped in this box I call my mind. You live here. Through my own life, my own drama, my own angst, you've stayed in that little box you now call your home. You live here. And I miss you now. I see those tattoos and I see you. And the face, that always helped me through. It's that time of year. Every year, I shed one less tear. Among millions, hard to think it makes a difference. Hard to think it gets easier. I miss you now. More than ever. And it happens every year. Fall comes along with all of its gray, and sweeps into a bright red heart, pumping so young, and fruitless, unaware of that part of you that is getting me through. Your strength, shot into my heart, with tired, shaky hands. Hard to trust that its for the better. I miss you now. I don't remember the wrinkles of your face, the strength of your hands, the brilliance of your mind. Wish I could rediscover it all again. Because this time I'd take note. I'd let you make your mark on this life I call mine. I'd let you in. Again and again, and not take advantage of the love you shared. I miss you now. And again.